Lala.
Sugar. This one was done at this site and then I went over the lines in SAI.
My assignment from Shannon was to read The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz...
I found the book to be very unrealistic and there were parts of it I didn't agree with at all, but if I quit being so critical and just look at it overall, it was an okay book. The four agreements are nice ideas I guess, and they're something that can be applied to your daily life to an extent, but to live by them completely seems really ridiculous imo.
What I mean is...
Okay like, the second agreement was what bothered me the most, I suppose. "Don't take anything personally" is the second agreement, and this really means don't take ANYTHING personally, whether it be positive or negative.
"It is not important to me what you think about me, and I don't take what you think personally. I don't take it personally when people say, 'Miguel, you are the best,' and I also don't take it personally when they say, 'Miguel, you are the worst.' I know that when you are happy you will tell me, 'Miguel, you are such an angel!' But, when you are mad at me you will say, 'Oh, Miguel, you are such a devil! You are so disgusting. How can you say those things?' Either way, it does not affect me because I know what I am. I don't have a need to be accepted. I don't have the need to have someone tell me, 'Miguel, you are doing so good!' or 'How dare you do that!'...
You may even tell me, 'Miguel, what you are saying is hurting me.' But it is not what I am saying that is hurting you; it is that you have wounds that I touch by what I have said. You are hurting yourself. There is no way I can take this personally."
I cannot possibly agree with such a way of thinking! Firstly, humans all desire to be accepted, so yes, both praise and criticism will affect me at least a LITTLE. It is impossible for it to have absolutely no effect on me, and I do not want to be that indifferent to the opinions of those around me in the first place!
And to say that what I am saying is not hurting the person I am speaking to, it is that person hurting himself, that is absolutely ridiculous. If I insult someone, it is MY words that have hurt them. Such a way of thinking is almost like not taking responsibility for your words/actions, is it not?
So yes, that chapter bothered me quite a bit... but the rest of the book wasn't too horrible. Some of it was really good, some of it was really bad.
My next assignment is Ishmael by Daniel Quinn but I have to wait for it to arrive in the mail... I hope I will like this book a bit better than my previous assignment :(
9 comments:
Your style seems to be changing abit, and it looks really nice :)
Omg, Lala looks so cute! >3< If I may ask, how did you get your blog's layout that streched out?
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I didn't notice that it looked different! XD it's changing without my permissionnn.
I'm glad to hear it looks okay though 8D; thank you!
DarkNekoKai>
Thank you!
I chose my layout so long ago that I can't remember exactly what I did to get it like this LOL... I'm pretty sure this is what I did though:
I'm using the Minima Stretch template. (Go to your dashboard, then "Layout," then "Pick New Template" and Minima Stretch is on the second row.) So the layout's all stretched out and awesome now, but obviously it's like, totally white... so you can edit the colors by clicking "Fonts and Colors" (which is also under the Layout section of your dashboard).
I'm pretty sure that's how I did it, anyway! I'm sorry if it's wrong! XD;;
Thanks I'll try it out! :3
hopefully you'll enjoy ishmael. for me, the book was enlightening, almost life changing, or rather life affirming. if you like it please continue with the rest of quinn's books, especially the story of b.
Anonymous>
thanks for your input :D if I like Ishmael, I'll definitely check out The Story of B *v*
That second agreement is kind of ridiculous :\ Why the hell would you not take praise personally;;; wouldn't that kind of make you more miserable to never feel praised or anything? I don't get that stuff, I can't read stuff like that. I have to stick with Stephen King and stuff like that XD
And aghh your sketchesss they're so god damn awesomeeee *O* *envyenvyenvy*
I just realized how many times I said "stuff" in that last two sentences;; holy crap XD;
Myou>
That's what I thought! D8 I mean, I understand that being able to get by without having to rely on praise is a good thing, but you can still accept praise and take it personally without RELYING on it.
Self-help books just aren't my thing, I guess. I'd rather stick to Stephen King books too LOL.
thank youu ;v; <33
(lmfao I have a tendency to use the word "stuff" in a lot of my sentences too XD)
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